Fertility Network’s tips for coping with Father’s Day
Father’s Day can be a difficult day when you’re struggling to become a parent. It all too often feels like a cruel reminder of what you don’t have and most desperately long for and it may seem as if everyone is celebrating and you cannot be a part of that. Here are some tips to help you get through this tricky day.
Acknowledge your feelings
The most important thing is to acknowledge your feelings. They are valid. Infertility can be corrosive, devastating, and all-encompassing. Take time to reflect on your situation and where you are in your journey.
Be kind to yourself
Be kind to yourself too. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. It’s ok to turn down invitations. You can spend the day however you want. It may help to take a break from social media.
Make it special for you
You may want to make it a special day in an alternative way for you. Honour how hard you have tried to be a father.
Time with your own father
If your dad is still alive and he is sympathetic to your situation, spending the day together may be an option. For many people, Father’s Day is a day of grief because their dad has passed away.
If you want to support a friend experiencing fertility issues on this toughest of days, tell them you are there for them to listen and to do whatever they would prefer. It’s up to them and whatever they say, goes. Do not give advice, unless explicitly asked to.
You are not alone
Although it may feel like it is impossible for Father’s Day to be anything other than distressing, if you make a plan ahead of time, then you have some control over the day. The raw emotions may still be there, the pain, heartbreak, anger, grief and more, but with understanding and support you will hopefully weather this day. Know you are not alone.
If you haven’t already, why not join HIMfertility, our online fertility support group for men experiencing fertility struggles. HIMfertility meets once a month, the next meeting is Wednesday 29 June at 8pm. Register at here
You can also catch up with our recent webinar on coping with Father’s Day here